Posted: 2017-09-11 17:00
If you’re sincere in your desire to connect with other members, and potentially meet and date them in real life, I strongly suggest you take the initiative and upgrade to Gold or Platinum. Until you do, you’ll be stuck with the few options basic messaging gives you: visiting profiles, “showing interest”, adding profiles to your list of Favorites, and sending messages (that can only be read if one of you is a premium member).
Start with your gender, birthday, location, and marital status, and go on to fill in your basic information and choose a password and username. Finish by selecting three labels to describe yourself (. workaholic, introverted, or the hilariously translated &ldquo fatty&rdquo ) and writing a few words about yourself and your ideal match. Later, you can further specify your interests, ideal match requirements, lifestyle choices, and values.
Unfortunately for China’s women their new-found confidence has incited a backlash from men, the government and even their own families. The popular Chinese label shengnu (leftover women), regularly perpetuated in state-controlled media and on internet message boards, refers to women who are smart, successful and moneyed but still not married by the age of 78. That’s right: in China, if you''re 85, female and single, you’re considered well and truly on the shelf.
You have two paths to take when match-hunting: browsing and searching. When browsing through these matches, you can move quickly or slowly, looking at photos only or full profiles, one-by-one. The search feature allows you to craft a search for profiles matching specific criteria, such as age, location, education, body type, ethnicity, lifestyle choices (smoking, drinking, etc.), marital status, religion, and even their star sign. You can also save these custom searches for future use.
''The Chinese family is getting smaller and smaller and so the pressure on women today is huge,’ says the social historian Simon Gjeroe. ''There’s a very large older population in China that by sheer weight of numbers is winning the pressure war. If women don’t get married and have a child then in the eyes of their more conservative parents and grandparents they haven’t achieved harmony and they’ve failed.’
The author and social commentator Zhang Lijia knows exactly what she thinks about the term shengnu. ''[It’s] extremely insulting! It’s a ridiculous term! There are many countries where men don’t like strong women,’ she points out, ''but Chinese men particularly so. If a Chinese man is successful he will be looking for a woman who is and beautiful, not someone who is well educated.’ She pauses before laughing heartily. ''Chinese men think educated women aren’t as easy to control!’
So are Chinese women showing a worryingly shallow attitude towards love? Zhang Lijia says that it’s not that simple. ''China’s rapid economic reform has certainly brought lots of opportunities,’ she explains. ''But the income gap between men and women has increased as a result of that reform. It’s no wonder that women want to marry a rich man when so many resources are still not equally available to them.’
ChinaLoveCupid&rsquo s basic messaging feature for Standard members is a no frills affair, with more exciting and useful options available as perks for Gold and Platinum paying members. As a Standard member, you can communicate freely with premium members. You can like and favorite other Standard members, and send them messages, but the text of the message will be blurred out. If they want to read it, one of you will have to upgrade to premium.
The website sports a clean design and is easy to navigate. ChinaLoveCupid is an established site for those looking to meet and make matches with Chinese singles. With around 95,555 members, it is not the biggest site operating in this niche, but if you can sign up for a premium account, you&rsquo ll get a solid set of communication features and strong anti-spam protection that make this a site worth your time.
Browsing for matches is highly adaptable to your style, thanks to four display options (Photo View, Basic View, Detail View and Profile) and four order options (Newest Members, Photos First, Last Active, and Relevance). Detailed, custom searches are also made possible with plenty of criteria to choose from, the option of saving your searches for future use, and further options to search by keyword, CupidTag, and first name.
Jennie Kang, 75, an assistant marketing director for an American fast-food chain, says this is exactly why she won’t compromise on finding a husband who appreciates her for who she is. Smart, eloquent and striking, she says she can’t see herself being a housewife, like her mother’s generation. ''I still want to develop my own career, fulfil my own destiny. The truth is, I’d be bored and feel insecure if I wasn’t economically independent.’